1) Forced BFF
Well, even I am a victim of this disease. You get connected to someone, and assume they are your BFF. Also, some stupid internet picture says ‘if you are friends for 7 years, you will remain friends forever’. BULLSHIT. I recently broke friendship with a person whom I was friend for past 8 years. All I want to say, it doesn’t matter how long the friendship is. You talk for hours to that person, doesn’t mean that person is your best friend. This assumption of labelling someone as your best friend, just because he/she has been talking to you for years, is quite immature and childish. But that’s what exactly happens around here.
2) ‘No sorry, no thank you’ type friendship
Bollywood influenced tagline, where all manners and ethics are lost. There is this notion that in true friendship, there should be no saying sorry and thank you. Its like, murder of mannerism, politeness and overdose of traumatising emotional melodrama. What’s wrong in saying THANK YOU and SORRY in any relationship ? And then, people who say such stuff, are judged heavily. And this attitude is reflected everywhere. The basic courtesy is lost when you bring in this shitty philosophy of not thanking and apologising in friendship. But again, this thing exists in abundance in my beloved country.
3) There should be no money in friendship, really ?
I borrow some bucks from you, and do my job. And then you ask me for your money. And i come up with this awesome quote “there should be no money in any friendship”, and you say “okay”. Well its NOT okay. I have seen people owing their friends upto thousands and ten thousands, but not giving them back. Money is an important factor which is completely neglected among friends. Which, again, is not right. They simply don’t ask because they know you are an asshole, and wont return the favour back. They actually kind of dislike you for this cocky behaviour. Pay that person back even a single penny you have borrowed from him/her. Each penny counts, and that leads to a healthy friendship. And trust on this fact, the friendship which has zero loan in between, is the longest and the healthiest.
4) Taken for granted friendship
BULLYING, is what I am talking about. I will come out of closet now. I have been bullied by people who I thought to be friends, in my college days. There have been occasions where these people vehemently dominated over me, with their physical will, just because they wanted me to do something of their wish. They call this as ‘okay’ in friendship. They say, since we are friends, so its alright to bully and tease someone, crossing all the ethical limits. Hitting physically, swearing and insulting, and literally using a person for a selfish need, is considered as ‘perfectly acceptable’ in some friendships here. There is this extremely stupid, annoying, outdated and classless phrase called as ‘birthday bumps’, in which a bunch of hungry barbarians hold the birthday boy up, chaining his arms and legs with human hands, and kicking him on his back with long, stinking, uncivilised legs. They call it ‘fun’ and a way of celebration. Well, this IS barbarism, and it should be stopped ASAP. Just because its his birthday, doesn’t mean you would take that person’s privacy for granted. Its not fun.
At the moment, these four points I am able to stumble upon. I might add something more later.